Friday, February 28, 2014

Soul Mate?

What in the world is a soul mate? I hear it all the time. I have believed in the reality of a soul mate for the past few years, but I don't think I quite got it right. You see, we put these unnecessarily huge burdens on our 'soul mate'. Let's take a trip back to my first year of college. Stick with me guys.

" I think I found my soul mate! He is the one." I sang to my friend, Lydia.
"There is no other guy I could love more than him. God knows me so well!"

Well, God also knew me well enough to put a gaping hole in my heart that He could fill. Don't misunderstand me; I believe in the beauty of a godly marriage. I just don't believe in a 'soul mate'. I don't really know what I think about 'the one'. There are way too many things that could go wrong with that mentality. I DO believe that God knows who we are gonna marry, but I do not believe that that person is necessarily our soul mate. 

1 "How lovely is your dwelling place,
    Lord Almighty!
My soul yearns, even faints,
    for the courts of the Lord;
my heart and my flesh cry out
    for the living God. - Psalm 84:1-2 

My soul yearns, even faints. Wow. Do you see how much truth is behind those two verses? Truth on how we should view relationships and even marriage. Jesus is our soul mate. He always has been and always will be. Your significant other or spouse is a puzzle piece in what God wants to accomplish in and through you and vice versa. Of course you must marry somebody you love, but there are some tests that I feel that every Believer needs to do before even considering getting into a relationship because a relationships without marriage in mind is a waste of time. I will discuss those tests in a later blog. Stay tuned. 

This whole 'the one' idea has been messing with my head for far too long. I will not focus on finding that person, but instead get caught up in what Jesus is calling me to. He will lead me to the right relationship in due season. So let's stop for a minute and think. Have you ever put unnecessary pressure on your significant other to be this 'perfect gift from God'? If you have, go call them and apologize right now. Go on. I'm not joking. Repent from putting that person as an idol. I know what you're gonna say because I said the exact same thing: "But wait a minute, I don't have any golden statues or crazy ornaments." No, we probably don't. I don't at least. We have these other subtle idols: spouses/bf or gf, material things, school, ministry (aha! didn't think that could be one huh?), and the list goes on. The bottom line is this: idols don't look like idols, but they have the same effect on us. We give our entire lives to it. We are manipulated and controlled by it. We kick God to the bottom of the list. It's pretty crazy right? Crazy that we kick God, the one who died for our sins (past-present-future) and loves us unconditionally, to the bottom of our list. I'm saying this from the perspective of someone who is walking through an intense season of healing in this area. Jesus is your soul mate. Your significant other is a puzzle piece in God's amazing plan for BOTH of your lives! 

He truly is the lover of our souls as the old song states. 
What amazing, crazy, reckless is this that died for me?! 
I ought to worship the being in charge of this.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." -John 3:16

I know that this verse is easily overlooked, Christianese kind of stuff. But try to re read again and meditate on it. He SO LOVED the world. 
He is the ONLY answer to true satisfaction and true love. 

Jesus, Jesus. Help me love you more and more each day because up until today, I have not done so. 

Keep an attitude of gratitude and a mindset of passion; stay passionate for and about His love. May we never stop pursuing it with all that's within us.

God bless & Goodnight. 

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